Seeing a Counselor

As I mentioned I am having a rough go again... I went to a counselor today. He was very helpful and I think it will be a good thing as time goes on. He recommended I get a book How to go on Living When Someone You Love Dies... I will have to see if they have at the library. I will see him once a week for a while and see if we can get some resolution to my ongoing tears.  A friend made an interesting comment... when I said "all Korry ever wanted was for Jazsper to grow up in a happy 2 parent home" secure, safe, loving ,.... etc.. and my friend looks at me and said .."he has that" he has exactly what Korry wanted for him. I think this thought will help me as time goes by. The counselor and I discussed the major losses in my life.. marriage, mom, dad, Korry... He says I have had a lot in the last few years. So I guess some of this is to be expected. He calls the problem I am having now Secondary loss grieving..which is not just grieving for Korry, but the other grieving that will come with raising Jazsper....
He says I need to write a letter to Korry and attach it to a balloon and let it float up to her in Heaven. We did balloons one day at the compassionate friends meeting I went to. It was neat watching them go. I imagined them going up to her... He says I am doing a lot of good "grieving" items, talking about Korry being very important... We discussed how you answer the question "how many children do you have"... i always include Korry, but just add that she is in her Heavenly home, not her Earthly home. That is my best way of explaining.
I hope that by talking with him I can work thru this ok.