Advice that makes full circle

I mentioned in my last post how much Kelsey's comment helped me. As I thought about it, I realized that Kelsey went through this exact thing back in January, February. She was so sad because Korry was not around to experience the positive happy times. The two girls always struggled so much. Kelsey was so upset one day, and I told her that Korry can see her, that Korry knows how happy she is and how positive things are going for her....
Kelsey and I both laughed about this yesterday. She had forgotten that I told her that.
I spoke with a friend of a friend who has young children he is raising since their mother died. He also lost his dad at 9 and his mom at 15. It was so comforting to talk to someone who really understood. He also said that he feels his wife is nearby with their children and that she "watches and sees" all the good stuff. He also mentioned ways that he helps his children keep their mom in their hearts. This also really helped me and made me feel better. I feel I am doing the right stuff and raising Jazsper in a good environment, with lots of love and security.
It's hard not being able to discuss some of this with my husband.  We just have such opposite ways of dealing with things.  I don't think he has any idea how rough things get for me at times. But he is a good man, and he loves Jazsper, and a lot of men would never have taken him in and raised him as his own. And that helps a lot.